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How to Have the Courage for Personal Growth

Why is a Personal Growth Plan Scary?

Most people don’t have a personal growth plan. They stumble through life, with no sense of purpose—or worse, they settle for what they have and bitch about everyone who makes a different choice, a choice to grow throughout their lifetime.

Why do people settle for the crumbs when they could have a seat at the table?

Some settle because they don’t know how to grow. They want to, but they don’t have the tools to transform their life.

Most people seem to settle for less than their full potential out of fear: fear of failure, fear of success (it’s a real thing!), fear of change, fear of the unknown—these powerful emotions grip us by the throat, squeeze the life out of us until we panic and crawl back into our comfort zone, and then slip back into the shadowy recesses of our mind where the fear lays in wait, coiled like a viper waiting to ambush our next attempt at anything ambitious.

It takes an extraordinary amount of courage to face these fears—and it all starts with facing the reality of your life. You aren’t where you want to be because of the choices you’ve made.

The courage to own your choices and their consequences is the first step to developing a personal growth plan. As long as you hold to the mistaken belief that outside forces control your destiny, that your present condition is the consequence of other people’s behavior, that you are not responsible—these erroneous beliefs are the shackles on your mind that hold you in the fear trap. You will always believe you aren’t good enough, you will always be jealous of those who have more shiny toys, you will always be afraid you’re missing out, and you live a life of fear balanced with regret.

You can choose a different path. You can choose to live a meaningful, well-lived life, full of purpose, joy, and rich in relationships and accomplishments.

That choice starts with recognizing you aren’t who you could be, that you are where you are because of your choices, that you have the power to make different choices, engage in learning new behaviors, learn how to take control of your life, learn how to reflect on your thoughts and expand your awareness of your potential.

That is scary—one rollercoaster after another, constantly looking failure in the eye and asking, “What lesson are you going to teach me today?”

Most people don’t have that kind of courage.

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How Does the Coaching Process Solve Your Problems?

Before I tell you how the coaching process can solve your problems, I need to do something else first.
I need to dispel myths about professional coaching.

It is not training. True coaches don’t tell you what to do, except in rare circumstances and only with your permission. How can a professional coach help you solve your problems if they don’t teach you how to do something?

It is not mentoring. A professional coach doesn’t look over your shoulder. A professional coach doesn’t nit-pick your mistakes. And a professional coach doesn’t tell you when you are wrong. How can a professional coach help you solve your problems if they don’t tell you when you make mistakes and how to correct them?

It is not therapy. A professional coach does not explore your past seeking answers. The process assumes you are a complete person who is creative and full of potential. It doesn’t assume you are a broken thing that needs fixing. How can a professional coach help you solve your problems if they don’t search your past to discover the roots of your behavior?

The answer lies in the coaching process. This is a designed relationship focused on you. The focus is on your agenda, your goals, your definition of success, your purpose. The designed process assesses who you are today and who you want to become.

The coaching process brings you to an expanded awareness of your potential. We challenge you with questions. These questions cause you to think about your problems and possible solutions in a new way. What are the benefits of your expanded awareness of the nature of your problem and possible solutions? It allows you to make better choices, decisions that are thoughtful and take actions that are meaningful.

That’s the other part of the process. Professional coaches hold you accountable to execute the behavior you said you would—not what we think you should do, but what you said you would do.

That’s how the designed coaching process, delivered by a professional coach, helps you solve your problems.

For more information on how coaching can help you, please visit us at the Dillon Group’s Optimal Human Experience page or on LinkedIn.